My friend was awarded custody and is raising his children alone after his divorce. He was married for 20 years and worked to provide for his family, including his wife the whole time. He supported his wife, who claims she is disabled, and funded many business ventures for her. While she was in the house, she pulled their youngest daughter out of school, stating that she too had a disability. Shen then proceeded to try and get disability for the daughter instead. This put the daughter behind in school by at least two years. Since she has been out of the house, the supposed diabled daughter has been receiving straight A's and those who know her have seen a huge change in her confidence level. Makes a difference when the parent who labeled you as 'stupid' is no longer in the picture.
Now the mother has been awarded spousal supposrt and alimony. She is then supposed to pay monthly child supposrt to the couples 19 year old college attending child and monthly support to the ex husband for the 13 year old child. She has yet to pay a cent, but has been able to garnish the exes check for her spousal and alimony amounts. The kids have yet to get anything from this woman.
She is supposed to have the 13 year old everyother weekend. She has 'forgotten' the visitation many times and the 13 year old does not feel comfortable staying with her mother. The mother is living in a home that is in foreclosure, but is renting our rooms in the foreclosed house for $300 a month. Let us not forget that the mother has a medical marijuana card, surprised by that bit of news I bet. She has repeatedly come over to the custodial parents house and has yelled and screamed about how much money he owes her. She does this in the middle of the street for all to hear, even her kids who live there. She is getting away with murder. My friend cannot even get any help to have the support money deducted from the spousal support and alimony because she does not have a job.
So tell me if this makes sense....She has the exes husbands check garnished, through the DA, the DA knows she is not paying, but they refuse to deduct what she owes her own children and hand her the whole amount monthly. Who is suffering here? Not the deadbeat Mom, it is the kids and the father trying to raise them, feed, them and keep a roof over their heads. The dad who goes to work everyday, makes dinner everynight, etc.
What is wrong with our system? Someone please help my friend. He wants nothing more than to be able to provide for his kids. She wants nothing more than to bilk as much from the system as she can. Contact me and I will give you the info of those involved. Thank you